What does this particular child need? I have asked it in Reception classrooms and in Year 6, about children who couldn't hold a pencil and children who could read anything but wouldn't write a word.
I have sat on the other side of the table at hundreds of parents' evenings, and I know the feeling of leaving one thinking, that isn't the child I see at home. When you write to me, you get the unhurried version of that conversation — proper time, proper thought, and my honest opinion.
Often I can tell a parent that what they are seeing is entirely usual for this age, and I hear the relief in their reply. Sometimes I say yes, this is worth pursuing — and then I tell you exactly how. Either way you will not be left guessing, and I will never dress up a worry to make more of it than it is.